A Memoir and Manual
For the parent who is certain they are right, terrified they might be wrong, and with no map for what comes next.
Book coming 2026Every book written for parents of transgender children assumes the parent is already on board. This one does not.
It starts where most parents are: worried, skeptical, and certain. Certainty is where Ricardo nearly lost everything. Perhaps where you are too.
God Makes No Mistakes
Cover art by Valentin Ramos. Final cover coming 2026.
There is an entire genre of books for parents of transgender children. They are warm, affirming, and written for parents who already believe their child.
This is not that book. This is written for the parent at the beginning, before any of the acceptance, when everything still feels wrong and uncertain and impossible.
Ricardo was that parent for thirteen years. He knows what the inside of that certainty looks like. He knows how it protects itself from evidence. He knows what it costs.
"Every other book says I understand you. Mine says I was you."
01
Starts from resistance
Opens from the same place most parents find themselves. Not yet there. That is precisely why it works for the reader who isn't either.
02
The science, without the politics
The actual biology of gender development in plain language. Not ideology. The research that dissolved Ricardo's last objection.
03
A manual, not just a memoir
Each chapter closes with reflection questions and concrete steps. You are meant to do something with it, not just read it and feel moved.
04
Written by a father, not a therapist
No clinical language. No academic distance. A man telling the truth about what happened to him, in the order it happened.
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