Ricardo Ramos — Author & Coach
A memoir and manual for the parent who is certain they are right, terrified they might be wrong, and with no map for what comes next.
The mission
By almost losing my child I learned the hard way that inherited beliefs can kill.
45% of transgender youth seriously consider suicide. Not because of who they are. Because of how we respond to who they are.
But parental acceptance changes that number by 82%. Not medication. Not therapy. You.
I paid a price for this knowledge. You don't have to.
Reduction in serious self-harm attempts when a parent accepts their transgender child. Not medication. Not therapy. You.
Ryan et al., 2010. Journal of Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Nursing.
Of transgender youth seriously consider suicide. The cause is not who they are.
The Trevor Project, 2023 National Survey on LGBTQ+ Youth Mental Health.
I knew exactly what my child was. My child knew better.
— Ricardo Ramos
The story
My son stopped wanting to live, not because of who he was, but because of how I responded to who he was.
The journey between the father who was certain and the father who understood took thirteen years. This book is the map I did not have.
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The phone call
Lorena calls. Ricardo's first reaction: this is a phase. He will be wrong about this for thirteen years.
2015–2021
The years of certainty
A loving, well-intentioned father doing everything wrong. The distance grows. The damage compounds.
2022
The Cantabrian coast
A road trip in November. Ricardo stops talking. Starts listening. The belief begins, slowly, to dissolve.
2024
The book
Valentin makes a clay sculpture for Ricardo's 50th birthday. Inscribed: "gracias por evolucionar conmigo."
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A memoir and manual. Thirteen years compressed into something you can read in a weekend and use for a lifetime. Coming 2026.
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A private conversation. Not a sales call. Not therapy. A father who was where you are, talking to a parent who is there now.
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